Let’S Be Friends
Between love and friendship, friendship is always the more
logical choice to go with. Why? 1It's a simple utilitarian
reason, the damage will be less, people will suffer less, and ultimately, no
one will hurt the way lovers hurt when they break up. Thus, friends who fall in
love with each other more often than not choose friendship and throw love away
on the side. Some brave souls on the other hand, choose love over friendship,
thinking that their friendship is worth risking to go up to the next level.
2You are here, reading this narrative
right now, because you have decided to stay as friends and turn your back on
love. 3I'm not going to say that you made the right decision,
because really, nobody knows. But if you decided on one thing, make sure that
you stick to it. To keep you from falling too deep in love with your friend,
here are some of the things you could do to avoid it.
1. Don't play with fire
This is just the same as saying that if you are on a diet,
then stop hanging out on the dessert table. When you think that you are falling
in love with 4your friend, then it will be best if you take
some time off and stop hanging out with each other especially if you are alone.
The danger of that is, your time being together will only make the feeling
develop until you can't just ignore it anymore.
2. Communicate less
Communication is a facet that could nurture a relationship;
thus, 5it follows that if you don't want a relationship to
progress, then you should cut the string that binds it. I'm not saying that you
should not communicate for the rest of your life. What I'm trying to say is to
limit it. Like for example, if you talk for hours and hours in your smartphone
before, this time try to limit it to just a couple of minutes, and don't let it
drag even longer.
3. Spend more time with your other friends
Reaching out for your other friends whom you haven't seen in
a while is not that much of a bother. Try to catch up with them for old time's
sake. Make yourself feel that you have a lot of friends and not just 6him
or 7her. Spend more time with your same sex friends. Enjoy yourself
without the worry of falling in love with whomever among 8them.
4. Weigh both sides
Analyze both sides of your dilemma, and make a mental
picture of what are the rewards and repercussions of your decision against the
one that you did not choose. Like when you are shopping, you choose between a
smartphone and a phablet, or a silicone case and a leather case, and you go
examine which ones fit you. Clear your mind and avoid being bias with your
analysis, and when you are already certain that you definitely made the right
decision, use that as your motivation to move on.
Falling in love with a friend happens every once in a while;
it's ok to take some chances. But keep in mind that whatever risk you take,
there will always be repercussions at the end of the day.
PERSONAL PRONOUNS
It’s: Possesive Adjective
You: Subject
I’m: Subject
Your: Possesive
Him: Object
Her:Object
Yourself: Reflexive
Them:Object
It: Subject